January 6, 2010

don't make someone fall for you if you have no intention of catching them.

-claudia chan

I watched the movie Up in the Air today, which tells of the story of a guy who’s life consists solely of his work. While he initially says he is surrounded by the world due to his constant travels, he eventually realize how isolated from friends and family he truly is. He had no aspiration other than to be the seventh person to achieve ten million frequent flyer miles. Through work, he is paired to work with this young girl who was just out of college. While brilliant (the movie states that she graduated top of her class at Cornell), she was the victim of all the false aspirations that the world and society place upon us. She relinquished the opportunity to work for several top companies in order to be with her boyfriend, who ultimately breaks up with her. The real purpose of this movie was that our aspirations should focus on family, friends, and love, while the tangibles are much less important. It portrays the view that our lives, as pointless as it may be because we will all die in the end, are only worth living when there are loved ones around us. Good story.

However, the secondary moral of this story is that everyone has fantasy dreams. The girl in the movie was telling her dreams of being out of college and married by 23 to the perfect six-foot tall guy and having kids and being able to settle down. The truth is that that dream cannot just come true as it’s pictured. It’s not that easy. It is clear through the two older characters that at some point, there comes a wake up call when we realize it’s just not possible. There are always things from these dreams that we have to give up.

…which brings me back to the quote. I wonder when all these girls that guys fall for will realize that they’re never going to catch some hot guy from Gossip Girls or, as ridiculous as this sounds, the vampire boy from Twilight. It’s so frustrating to sit here and have to wait for that realization.

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So I’m getting ready to go on this epic ski trip tomorrow. It’s our second annual trip and we’re making it overnight this year. I think it’s going to be pretty awesome. It’s funny that everything has to have its fair share of drama involved. The bigger the trip, the bigger the drama. Good shit.

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With a lot of people, I often feel that I get such mixed feelings about them. When a certain side of the person shows, I enjoy their company and do not find anything wrong with them. When another side of the person shows however, I just simply have no desire to deal with them.

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I was having coffee with Viv today (well having coffee as in we sat in Starbucks, without actually buying anything). In the midst of conversation, she described me as jaded. Thinking about it, it’s incredibly true. It seems that every occurrence in life just feels so old and pointless to me. I’m simply exhausted by the every day comings and goings that everything has become pretty meaningless. I think I need to seek the advice of Up in the Air; try to find the human connections and love to make each day more bearable. Stop isolating myself from the world. Give others a chance and maybe I will  find the person or people that makes each day worth it.